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Why is self love so important?

Self-love is the starting point for being able to truly and selflessly love and show love to others. Without loving yourself, it is hard to be completely selfless in a relationship with anyone. It's important because it is the foundation for all good relationships with others.


Before you can receive love and respect from others, you need to love and respect yourself.

When you make decisions out of guilt, a need to please or to avoid conflict, you overvalue the needs of others and disrespect yourself.

This conveys—to yourself and those around you—that you accept very little. That doesn’t feel very good, does it?


Some people equate self-love with selfishness. But that’s not true.

When you think this way, it becomes hard to take good care of yourself. Delete that limiting belief from your mind.

Create a new belief that echoes in your ear: “It’s okay to put my needs first.” Repeat often.

The good news is when you love yourself fully you feed your soul and become the highest version of yourself.


It feels natural to take good care of your body, mind, and spirit.


Love begets love so you’re drawn to give to others. You have the energy to give and in turn, giving energizes you.

Everyone benefits. As cliché as it sounds, self-love is the gift that keeps on giving.

And what’s more important than that?

Self-love is important for numerous reasons. It has a profound impact on how we see ourselves and how we treat ourselves.



Everyone needs self-love. While it’s great to be on the receiving end of love from others, it’s also important to practice self-love daily.


Self-love allows you to fill in the gaps external sources of love may leave

No one has a better understanding of your innermost thoughts and needs than you do. Even when you try to share with others how you feel, they may empathize and show compassion, but they’ll never quite experience life the same way you do.


Self-love motivates you to make healthy choices in life

When you hold yourself in high esteem, you’re more likely to choose things that nurture your well-being and serve you well.

These things may be in the form of eating healthy, exercising or having healthy relationships. You express your love for yourself by doing things that help you to show up in life as the best version of you.


Self-love is important also when it comes to setting boundaries in relationships

Having a clear understanding of what your boundaries are and being able to set them, communicates that you value yourself. As a result, you’re more likely to have more fulfilling relationships.

Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for the relationships you have with others. When you treat yourself with love and respect, you give others permission to do the same.


Without self-love, you drastically decrease your ability to be successful at anything

A lack of self-love can derail someone’s career and chances for success. How many highly successful people do you think look in the mirror every day and say, “Ugh, I hate myself”. It is as simple as that.

Without self-love, you drastically decrease your ability to be successful at anything. Failed businesses, relationships, ideas, all stem from a lack of self-love.


When you have self-love, you understand who you are at the core of your being and you accept who are, flaws and all.

Self-acceptance has, over and over again, been shown to be a key indicator of success. Self-love is the next step after self-acceptance imagine how vital that is the success and true happiness in any aspect of your life.

The process of achieving self-love may look different for each person but there are some key steps that everyone needs to take:


Eliminate toxic relationships

The road to loving yourself is going to be extremely bumpy if you are trying to get there with toxic people in your life.


Treat yourself well

Take time to appreciate yourself. Congratulate yourself on a job well done. Have a great meal, go do something fun.

Once you find your sense of self and become more self-aware and develop true self-love, opportunities will present themselves.





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